There’s a reason why people say it’s easier to see the glass “half empty.” Although I’m definitely a firm believer in practicing positivity, (key word: practicing,) it doesn’t necessarily mean that it happens successfully on a daily basis even when I try.

My struggle with various forms of anxiety has enabled me to explore options such as meditation, many (many) self-help books and what many perceive as spiritual healing; but just like any sport or activity, positivity definitely takes practice, patience and perseverance.

It’s definitely easier to spiral into a state of negativity than it is to count your blessings. Sometimes it’s even more convenient. Admiring what others have accomplished or acquired and comparing it to your own life is human nature; being inspired to pursue your dreams and acquire great outcomes to your future is simply a part of life. Jealousy on the other hand, is what’s toxic. There’s definitely a difference between admiring for inspiration and envying others without trying for your own success.

I think pop-culture and social media is to blame for a lot of first world problems; it has led people to “admire” others in the form of jealousy as opposed to admiring them for positive inspiration.

I try and have good days. Every morning when I leave my house, I try and practice the “theories of positivity” that I’ve learned and read about in countless books. I do my breathing exercises, I say and write down my daily affirmations, I think about the things that matter most in life and remind myself that the little things don’t…but even so, sometimes, I just have a bad day.

Finally, I’ve come to the realization that you don’t always have to be positive. You can put it into practice all you want, but sometimes, you’re just going to have a bad day.

Sometimes, when life throws you lemons, they hit you right in the face and you just have to admit defeat and call it a day.

This realization has been incredibly liberating.

Although I don’t allow myself these kinds of days very often; I’ve realized that sometimes it’s okay to accept the outcome of the day and simply aim to try harder for a better one tomorrow.

As long as you’re always striving to move forward, the speed bumps won’t matter in the long run. Cut yourself some slack, you’re only human.

L